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Healing Your Relationship With Money for Financial Abundance
- Vanessa Marie
- Aug 28
- 8 min read
Updated: Aug 29
There is often a quiet discomfort around money, not because we do not want it, but because of the stories we carry about it, financial fear, or how we value our own worth. Maybe you were taught to be modest about wanting more, or that your worth depends on how little you ask for. Perhaps you have always done “enough,” yet still feel uncertain about what it takes to feel safe with money.
Healing your relationship with money for financial abundance begins with creating a healthy relationship with money. It starts by meeting yourself with honesty and care. It is not about extreme budgeting, hustle, or shame. It is about soul alignment with your values, authentic self, your nervous system, and your sense of self-worth.
This post offers a calm, feminine path, guided by self-trust, toward financial wellness, the art of receiving wealth, and sustainable financial abundance. Whether you are rebuilding trust with better money habits or expanding into wealth, these grounded practices can support you in making changes that feel self-honoring and aligned with your core values.
What Is Financial Abundance?
Financial abundance means feeling supported by money, not ruled by it. It is the embodied experience of having ample resources, freedom to pursue your goals, and confidence in your capacity to create a life you deeply value.
When you embody financial abundance, you feel:
Secure in your ability to meet your needs
Aligned in how you spend and save
Empowered to invest in what matters
Free from constant financial anxiety
Understanding Your Relationship With Money
Keep this in mind: money is neutral and only carries the meaning we give it. We tend to think of money as a practical tool, which it can be, but our relationship with it is also deeply emotional, an energetic connection with earning, spending, saving, and receiving.
For example, many of us grew up with very hard-working parents and grandparents, conditioned to believe that relentless effort and sacrifice were necessary for security.
Early lessons such as these wire the subconscious to associate money with tension or fear, or to reject it in one way or another, long into adulthood, even when we consciously want better money habits and financial abundance.
If you grew up seeing money cause stress like I did, or instability, or control, you might have inherited a sense of scarcity, which means the sense that there is never enough. On the other hand, if you learned that money was taboo to talk about or “not for people like us,” you may have unknowingly created distance between yourself and the possibility of wealth.
Whether you carry fear, a sense of lack, or limiting beliefs around money, these patterns can be softened and reshaped. But you can’t bypass decades of lived experiences that have been imprinted on your subconscious. To create new beliefs about wealth, your nervous system must feel truly safe in its capacity to hold and manifest financial abundance.
To heal your relationship with money is the practice of tending to old patterns while inviting in new ways of being. It means turning toward your emotions and the ways your body has learned to carry money, noticing the beliefs that no longer serve you, and allowing space for new ones to emerge.
Understanding Your Nervous System for Financial Abundance
By understanding the states our nervous system cycles through, we can begin to notice when stress or tension shows up and learn to respond in ways that support financial abundance and ease with money.
Polyvagal theory explains how our brain and body work together: our autonomic nervous system constantly and adaptively cycles through these three main states:
Ventral Vagal – Safe, connected and grounded
Sympathetic – Alert and reactive, ready for fight or flight
Dorsal Vagal – Shut down, frozen or numb
The goal isn’t to avoid stress. Stress is part of the human experience and often shows up around money, whether in earning, spending, or financial decisions. Instead, it’s about noticing which state you’re in and learning how to bring yourself back to balance.
Identifying Your Relationship with Money
Signs You May Need to Heal Your Relationship with Money
You feel guilt after spending, even on things that bring you joy
You undercharge in your work or over give emotionally and financially
You avoid looking at your accounts
You tie your value to how much you earn or save
You believe wealth is for “other people,” not for you
You make excuses for spending or saving
You compare your finances to others constantly
You postpone financial decisions indefinitely
You feel that having more wealth means others will have less
These are not flaws. They’re invitations, signs that your relationship with money may be calling for compassion, and an adjustment moving forward. Building financial wellness isn’t about comparing yourself to others; it’s about honoring your own journey, choices and self-esteem.
Identify Your Limiting Beliefs
Deep in your subconscious are thoughts, beliefs, and patterns you’ve repeated so often they feel like personal truths, even when they aren’t facts. These personal truths guide how you interpret the world, make decisions, and respond to situations, often without you even realizing it.
Below is a list of some limiting beliefs that may have become your money wound—deep emotional patterns from past experiences quietly shaping your relationship with money.
Notice what arises in your body as you read them. Tightness, heaviness, or resistance are signals showing where old patterns are held. Allow yourself to feel these sensations in a safe way, gently cueing your nervous system that it is safe to release them and step into new, supportive ways of relating to money and your new empowering beliefs around financial abundance.
Success requires sacrifice of my well-being or happiness.
Money doesn't grow on trees.
Having wealth makes me selfish or greedy.
I must work endlessly to earn enough.
There’s never enough to go around.
I am defined by what I have or don’t have.
Receiving feels uncomfortable or unnatural.
I will lose what I earn if I let myself relax.
Asking for more is pushy or inappropriate.
Wealth changes people, and I don’t want to change.
"Money cannot buy peace of mind. It cannot heal ruptured relationships, or build meaning into a life that has none." Richard M. DeVos
How to Manifest Financial Abundance
Manifestation is simply a word that means bringing something into reality. It isn’t magic. It’s mindful. You can’t force your way into financial abundance, but you can become an energetic match for it.
When you align your beliefs with what you wish to create, you’re practicing the Law of Assumption—acting from the assumption that financial ease and growth are already possible for you.
Learning how to manifest financial abundance means understanding your money energy, aligning your mindset with worth, and creating better money habits that invite wealth naturally. Feel into your body, and assume with confidence that financial ease is already possible for you. Notice whether your money story flows freely with openness and ease, or if it feels tight and blocked by fear or resistance.
Let's start with the idea that you can have better money habits and learn to manage your money, so your money doesn't manage you.
Here are gentle ways to notice what your money story is and how it shows up in your body:
Reframe your money story. Notice any inherited beliefs like “I’m not good with money” and shift them to “I’m learning to manage money with ease.”
Stay open to receiving. Practice receiving small gifts with gratitude to expand your capacity. Whether it’s a compliment, a tip, or a new opportunity, allow it in.
Visualize abundance. Not in flashy terms, but in the form of peace, space, and options.
Affirm your self-worth. Say: I am worthy of having more than just enough.
Honor where you are at. You don't have to rush. Go at a pace that feels safe. Trust your inner guidance.
Better Money Habits for Real Life
Better money habits don’t have to be rigid or complex. You don’t need spreadsheets if they drain you. Start with practices that feel gentle but consistent.
Try These 5 Simple Money Shifts to Improve Financial Wellness
Understanding how to improve financial wellness is simple when you know what steps to take...and stick to.
#1 Create a weekly money ritual
Check in with your accounts, spending, and goals without judgment.
#2 Track abundance
Include small savings, discounts, or money that comes in unexpectedly.
#3 Use values-aligned spending
Let your money reflect what matters, not what others expect.
#4 Set intentions, not rules
“I’m working toward financial stability” holds more grace than “I must save X.”
#5 Celebrate the small wins
Noticing and honoring small steps shifts your feminine energy around money.
Developing a Wealth Mindset
A wealth mindset is about believing you are capable and deserving of financial growth. It doesn’t mean ignoring challenges. It means trusting that you have what it takes to navigate them without betraying yourself.
When you embody a wealth mindset, you stop tying your worth to scarcity. You let go of guilt around receiving. You begin to trust that your effort, high-vibrational energy, and talents are meant to be supported, both financially and in other areas of your life.
My coaching framework, Awaken the True You breaks down how to establish this wealth mindset. Your financial relationship with money will transform when your mindset shifts from fear to possibility.
How to Have an Abundance Mindset with Money
Speak from sufficiency: Replace “I can’t afford it” with “It’s not aligned right now.”
Respect your energy: Stop spending just to relieve guilt or prove something.
Let wealth feel safe: Breathe into what stability feels like. Normalize it in your body.
Witness women thriving: Surround yourself with stories of financial growth to normalize your own.
The High-Value Woman and Her Relationship With Money
A high-value woman isn’t defined by her income or status. She’s defined by how deeply she values her time, energy, and needs. She leads from self-respect, especially in how she relates to money.
Rather than trying to hoard money and save up, I try to see it as a tool to fulfill my priorities. The goal for myself is not to avoid spending but to use money for things that truly improve the quality of your life.
Having a healthy relationship with money doesn't mean cutting expenses out of fear, Instead I focus on investing in experiences and tools that bring lasting value, like taking a course that supports my career growth, buying high-quality ingredients to nourish my body, and spending on travel that creates meaningful memories. The idea is not to restrict spending but to direct it toward what genuinely enriches you life with the things you value and prioritize most.
How to Be a High-Value Woman When It Comes to Finances
You are already worthy, and you have the capacity to live fully as the high-value woman you desire to be.
Be honest about what you want. Don’t shrink your goals to avoid judgment.
Expect reciprocity. In work, in love, and in what you invest.
Practice discernment. Just because you can afford something doesn’t mean it aligns.
Set boundaries that protect your financial peace. This includes saying no to emotional labor that drains you.
Final Thoughts: Your Relationship With Money Is Personal
There’s no one way to build a better relationship with money. But what’s true for all of us is this: when we slow down, listen inward, and stop outsourcing our worth, everything begins to shift.
You don’t have to become someone new to experience financial abundance. You get to grow from where you are. You get to hold both desire and contentment. You get to choose a pace and path that honors you.
Let your relationship with money reflect your values, your femininity, and your self-respect. Let it holistically reflect of how you care for yourself, not just how much you earn.
Are You Ready to Strengthen Your Relationship With Money?
If you’re feeling out of alignment or disconnected with yourself or your finances, I’m here to guide you. I help women create emotionally grounded, aligned shifts in how they relate to money so they can thrive in both life and business. It's all within reach.
If you’re ready to shift deeper patterns and start living from empowered financial beliefs, I invite you to apply for a free discovery call. Let’s explore what’s possible together.
